Sorry to all my followers I have been clearly distracted from blogging and distracted from moving my grassroot effort to change the way we eat. After the whirlwind experiences of meeting Oprah Winfrey and running a successful Jamie Oliver Food revolution day in London Ontario I had to sit back and have a look at my finances.
I was in trouble, a lot of bills piling up and no end in site. Missing a car payment, collections calling about another company. I sat down and changed some of the options for my cell phone, reduced channels for the TV, cancelled my organic grocery orders, cancelled chiropractor services for me, stopped Megan from going to osteopath, reduced her singing lessons to once every 2 weeks.
I knew I had to do something to change the way I was managing money. There is no way that I can keep up with barely surviving every month.
So for the month of June I took every possible overtime opportunity at work. I have disappeared into the woodwork. Barely any updates on Facebook, I am not working in my liver support group, I am not socializing. I have worked 46 hours of overtime on top of my 37.5 hours in the last 9 days. It was a huge challenge!
Up most nights dealing with client issues, my puppy became very confused why mommy was never in bed with him! I have been a zombie stepping through my days!
My daughter Megan actually flourished during the month of June! She has decided that she wants to be a lawyer, she wants to be accepted to the best schools for University. Her plan is to become a big part of her high school when she returns in September. She is auditioning for a play in London on July 15th which is also her 16th birthday. Megan has started working 30 hours a week in a volunteer role at the Children’s museum in London. She is working up her resilience and building a habit of getting back into a daily rhythm. This is huge for her, she was not in school last year due to her health and lack of sleep. She is fighting back and I could not be prouder of Megan! She is saying Screw you to her health issues and insisting on having the best life she can. She is volunteering for the Anti bullying coalition, she wants to fight for civil rights and her big goal now is to work at United Nations. I am her biggest cheerleader and I will be cheering for her all the way to the top!
My son Alex will also be making huge changes, he turned 19 at the end of May. In early June he confirmed he has accepted the offer to move to Halifax to take Psychology at Dalhousie University. My stepdad has provided airline tickets through Aeroplan for Alex and I to fly to Halifax on September 1st. We will be meeting my friend Dawn at the airport and she has kindly offered us accomodation at her home outside of Halifax. Alex is stepping into adulthood, he is stepping into a world he has never been a part of, living without family anywhere near him. I am scared and excited for him. I hope he flourishes and finds an exciting path that will make him happy.
So while I may be quiet, things are happening here in my world! Lots of good things and with all of the overtime I have worked I will be able to pay off some bills and put a bit into savings. I will be able to breath. I will also be in touch with a financial counsellor this week to make sure I don’t get myself into trouble again.
Sometimes its very important to refocus your efforts on the family and on finances. I can make a ton of difference in the world but I have to make sure my priorities are right. If I could make money doing things like the Jamie Oliver Food Revolution Day things would be so much easier. That is not my reality, and I have to ensure that I balance the things I do for the greater good in the community with keeping a balanced budget at home.
Please also see a webisode I did with Tammy Lee Marche in June talking about growing up in an abusive family and how I truly have a good life overall regardless of what my parents did to me as a child.
Thanks for following my blog and I will now be able to start sharing good stuff again!!