Angels in my life Brandon Krieger

I found Brandon on a Blog post. He was looking for one person to test his method of holistic coaching. I had replied that I was a single mother on limited income but that I wanted to lose weight to be a healthy role model for my daughter and he agreed to try his system on me.

He sent me about 20 pages of questionairres to fill out before we met. Some of the questions around sexuality and sleep patterns made me scratch my head. What on earth does that have to do with losing weight?

The office was a 30 minute drive west of where I live. but i decided that it was worth the drive if i was really going to see a difference.

So here I am a year and a bit later and I am the same weight! So how can I call Brandon an angel? How can I call his program a success?

Brandon is about holistic coaching…that means ensuring all areas of life are balanced. He taught me about chakras, about becoming selfish instead of giving all of myself to everyone else around me. 

We started working on my core muscles, exercises to build the centre so that it could support the rest of my body.

I was using using low glycemic eating as my food plan and he taught me that I am a protein based eater, my body requires 50% protein, 25% carb, 25% veggie. This made sense for me and I started incorporating that into my eating.

We had some successes, I was losing inches and had lost some weight. My core exercises were progressing but my balance was always off and Brandon knew i was too distracted by issues in my life.

Megans health crisis was weighing so heavily on me, I had lost my job, I was struggling financially again and I did not feel safe.

Our focus moved from weight loss to getting me to a safe place again.

Megan needed to get healthy that was on the critical path, Brandon worked with her food and finding exercises that she could do with the extreme vertigo. Jason worked on her organs to get them working correctly for her and ensure things were flowing through her system correctly.

I needed to find a new job asap and i was told to focus on getting resumes out and networking.

I was lost , I was scared, I felt hopeless. Brandon kept me moving forward despite myself. I would have been very happy to just roll up into a little ball and feel sorry for myself. This was not an option.

Brandon didn’t let me give up on me. After a couple months of not finding a new job, he made me write out my life goals, I wanted to help people be the best they can be. I wanted to instill in others the resilience i carry.

I broke down my goals into Financial, Learning, and relationships. Within each of these areas they were further broken down into 3 week goals, 3 month goals, 6 month, 12 month and 5 years.

It was not easy to see my life 5 years down the road when i couldn’t figure out how to put food on my table the next day! I decided to amuse Brandon and write them all out. I didn’t really think they would work but what did I have to loose?

I was to find a coaching client

I was to get 5 resumes out

I was to start my autobiography

I was to find a job within 3 weeks

I am very proud to say that I accomplished every item within the 3 weeks.

Debbie was my first coaching client. I found her at a networking meeting 2 days after I set the goal.

I started writing my autobiography and I am almost finished that now.

I got the job offer right at the 3 week mark!

Was it magic, nope it was having specific goals that were time sensitive and an awesome coach to keep me moving forward.

Here I am 5 months later, I am one month away from feeling completely safe with my new job. My daughter is struggling again but I am confident she will be doing better very soon.  I also no longer rescue people, this is a huge for me as I have done that all my life. Brandon helped me see how much energy that was sapping out of my life. I have shelved the coaching until I am past the 6 month mark at work but I am very excited about starting some new goals with Brandon once April 20, 2011 is under my belt. Safety and security is so close I can taste it. its all i really need to  take steps towards an even better life.

Brandon thank you from the bottom of my heart for being flexible enough to adjust my goals as the life challenges changed. Thank you for beleiving in me and always supporting me and pushing me forward when i wanted to give up. You are an angel in my life and I will always be thankful for you!

The Rescuer

One of the biggest evolutional changes in my life is stopping a habit that has been part of my entire life.  My name is Michelle and I am a Rescuer!

At the age of 3, I tried to stop my dad from hitting my mother.  At the age of 8, I hid my sister in a closet to prevent her from seeing violence in my family. I rescued myself at 17 by leaving my mother’s home. Up until the age of 30 I tried to rescue my mother from mental illness. If I could only make her happy I was sure she would get better. My father wanted me to rescue him from a sex addiction in my 20’s. I tried but I felt so awkward about this request. My family NEVER understood boundaries. My sister seemed to pull her life together in her early 20’s but after giving birth to her first child she got very sick. For the last 11 years I have felt so much pain on her behalf as I have watched her world fall apart in so many ways. Sadly, I am not ready to come back into her life I need to make sure I understand boundaries and how to apply them to my relationship with her. I cannot rescue her from the life that she has been given. In my heart I feel she needs that rescuing, and she has always needed that.  I do not expect her to change.  I know I cannot ask her to do that. The only way I can be in her life is if I can find a way inside me to disconnect from the strong need to be her rescuer. This disappoints and devastates some of my family but it is the right choice for me until I can see the best way to be in her life without losing my own identity.

This has happened with Men I have dated too. One who seemed to have the worst luck in the world, I thought if I gave him somewhere to stay for a few weeks it would give him the boost he needed to pull it together.  Of course, he did nothing to improve his life. He lied to me and stole from me.

Friends, yup lots that I have played that rescuer role with, guiding them to leave bad relationships, on how to fix bad relationships. I told them how to deal with family members and how to deal with money issues.

Emergencies are my specialty, house fire, a cancer diagnosis; I know how to pull everyone together to make sure that the things that need to happen will happen.

Men and women always seem to want me to help them; I know I set off the vibe to make sure they know that I will. I have traditionally offered up my heart and soul to help someone in need.

Today things are different. When someone clearly needs direction or a rescue, I offer personal coaching as a service. This does one of two things, if they are ready to change and improve their lives I get a new client. If they are not ready or really interested in fixing their lives they leave me alone, the last thing they want is to have me ask them for money again.

Today I take care of me and my direct family first. This is thanks in large part to Brandon Krieger who has gently guided me through all the emotional garbage that has been holding me back. I am writing my life story and that has allowed me to slowly deal with each tragedy that happened in my life and see the impact they have had in my current life. Brandon Krieger is my personal holistic life coach and I highly recommend having a guide in your life to be accountable too.

I will love you and support you but if you want to be rescued I charge 50.00 per hour now.